They argued all day. Non-stop. On and on and on.
They argued with each other. With family, neighbors, co-workers, authority.
A constant spate of negativity gushed from their mouth.
“I should have married Alberto, he was more of a man than you could ever be”
“You weren’t so much of a catch yourself. You practically threw yourself at me. Nobody else wanted you”
“Mom always loved you the best. You were her little pet.”
“You always got away with everything and he always blamed me.”
“My dog can pee anywhere he wants. Don’t tell me what I can and can’t do.”
“Stop harassing me for money. Get a job you loser”
Two people trying to gain control by hammering others into submission.
Christopher was raised in this toxic environment. When very young he would cry in frustration and bewilderment at the noise, the angry faces, the lack of love and comfort. Over time he began to retreat to his room, close the door,stuff cotton wool into his ears and try to envelope himself in silence. As he grew into independence he would escape into quiet places and savor the silence.
He found a job and left home and his parents behind. The paradox is that he became a respectful listener, patient and attentive to the concerns of others. In this case two wrongs did make a right.
My Heart Leaps Up
My heart leaps up when I behold
William Wordsworth
A rainbow in the sky:
So was it when my life began;
So is it now I am a man;
So be it when I shall grow old,
Or let me die!
The Child is father of the Man;
And I could wish my days to be
Bound each to each by natural piety.
I can relate to this. The first firm decision I made in life that I will never be like my mother. I will be independent and strong. Guess it has shaped me into whatever I am today.
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We always learn something from our parents Reena……in most cases by their actions rather than by their words. How NOT to behave as well as how to behave.
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I can relate to this. The first firm decision I made in life that I will never be like my mother. I will be independent and strong. Guess it has shaped me into whatever I am today.
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Reblogged this on Reena Saxena and commented:
The Child is Father of the Man …. by Len
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Thanks Reena.
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I loved your whole post, Len. Sometimes individuals not only survive but thrive despite all odds. Do you know that Johnny Cash song, “A Boy Named Sue”? He sings it in a humorous way but at the end is an interesting message.
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Johnny Cash one of my all time favourites. I received his complete collection of songs on cd for a birthday present.
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🙂 So you know it.
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Brilliantly put into words. They say things skip a generation, I say we learn what not to do from our parents, and then go on to make a whole new set of mistakes on our own.
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Amen to that Violet. To err is human.
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This sums up reality for many people Len! A great post. I find it strange that with all the schooling people receive we still take years to wise up, or in some cases maybe never do.
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Amen to that Marie.
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